The Spoon Theory and Mental Health

Change takes time and the steps toward change need to be a balance between challenging but doable. If we are failing repeatedly to make a desired change one of the reasons could be that we’ve made the step, or steps, to take too big. When we are working toward a certain outcome, the number and kind of steps we break the journey into on our way to achieving that goal has nothing to do with anyone else and their abilities. It has nothing to do with what we perceive we should be able to do, how easy we think it should be or how long we think it should take–which are all usually based on comparisons to and assumptions made about other people or even to previous version of ourselves. It has to do with taking realistic stock of what we are in fact able to do right now. 

Just because we’ve reached a certain age where we think we should know how to do something, doesn’t mean we actually know how to do it. Often we either assume we have the ability whether or not we do or if we do have self awa…